Craving Kindness

Sunday, January 28, 2018

Do we want to be angry? I, right?  That sounds silly.  Why would anyone want to be angry? Well, to me, living in a big city and having social media, it seems like a lot of people do.

This morning I was driving to work, and I work on a busy street (Highland Avenue in Hollywood).  I put my blinker on and slowed to part along the sidewalk, and a man who was driving no further than 8 inches from my bumper nearly hit me and honked his horn for much longer than necessary, while speeding next to me shouting at me out of his window.  Was all of this really necessary?  Maybe I should have put my blinker on sooner, maybe he shouldn't have been following so closely behind me, but come's not the end of the world.

People go out of their way to write mean things on the internet. I've written about this before so I won't exhaust it, but maybe it's the anonymity or maybe it's how easy and fast it can be done, but people will go out of their way to seek out trouble online.  People on Facebook will write cryptic posts about others and bait them, only to play victim when it's discovered.

Blog posts will be written about how people who like a celebrity, a politician, a song, a movie....are all less important and beneath the author.  In the era of Trump, it is always "Us Vs. Them" and "Winners and Losers."

I'm sick of it.

Horrible things happen every day.  Horrible people exist and life is hard and if you let it get to you, it's easy to get swallowed whole by the awfulness in the world.  Maybe that driver tailgating me this morning was rushing to the hospital to see his wife have his first child.  Maybe he was late for the biggest job interview of his life, and he has been out of work for a while.  Maybe those folks you make fun of on your blog or Instagram posts like something you think is silly because it reminds them of someone they love, or a time they were happier and they're going through a rough time.  Maybe someone is going through a big break up, and they see your faux-cryptic post on Facebook about them. How would that make you feel?

Truth is, we are all going through something at any given moment that is hard or unpleasant or devastating.  It sounds so first grade teacher, but we should be working together instead of trying to come out on top or be the "winner" in a game that has no winners.  Life isn't about winning, it's about living and loving and being the best and kindest person you can be with the hand you've been dealt.

Any time anyone yells at me on the road, or puts down something I like, or puts me down, I just try to think that maybe they're having a not-so-great time right now, and this isn't the best representation of themselves.  It's very easy for me to get angry back at someone and lose my temper when I think I'm being wronged, but these days I'm less apt to be angry than I am to be concerned or empathetic.

It's a hard battle for each of us every single day, and we are all in this thing together.
2 comments on "Craving Kindness"
  1. This is such a good post, I feel the exact same way. It is so hard to lose your temper after someone has done something to you. I've been trying to practice every single day to be even more kind than I already am.

    It is so strange to have grown up when there wasn't now, having it be where it is. It is sad to see how far people have come in putting each other down on social media and how worse it has gotten since the days of livejournal and myspace. I've been spending less and less time on social media these days and I love it. If I start reading anything that angers me or I don't like I stop immediately otherwise it is so easy to get caught up in reading the comments or whatever and getting heated.

    <3 -Sarah

    1. I have been seeing a lot of people talking about this lately. Some kind of social media fatigue is setting in I think. I actually long for a time or place where social media doesn't exist, and have also been cutting down on my time spent on it. I wish I had the strength to delete it all from my life...but I actually use it for my job so ugh haha.